Death on Mars and Venus

Not literally of course. I was just thinking about Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. I dragged took my husband to see the author of that book, speak. He liked it a lot more than he thought he would. Mostly because the author doesn't bash men OR women. He just talks about how we’re different. It was pretty interesting.

Anyway, us Venus folks, base almost everything on emotion. Oh, we can be practical but I don’t believe it’s in our true nature. Most of us are kind of whimsical in some way or another. You Martians on the other hand, don’t really pay attention to the feely things. When you speak of a car, it’s all about performance and its workings. We women want to know the color, what accessories it comes with, is it pretty.
When a man says he doesn't really care about his birthday – he actually means it. Women care. Oh yeah, we totally care! And we care that you DON’T. Funny.

That’s just the way it is, different. Not good, not bad, just different.

Most of the time I can tell when Bill is pissed off. I can’t tell when he’s bummed though. Unless it comes across as being pissed off. Being blue or sad is a feely thing, so he’s not very good with that. I bring this up because, Bill’s Dad passed away (at 88, in his sleep) Monday morning. He went out to California to see his Dad over Fathers Day weekend because his sister told him it was going to be his last one. He really dragged his feet about going. He would have never bought his father a “greatest Dad” t-shirt, if you catch my drift. When he came home and I asked him how he felt about seeing his Dad so frail and knowing he might die this year, he said, “I’m broken hearted that I won’t be broken hearted.” Me, being one of those feely types, figured that he can SAY that but when it actually happens it will be different. Turns out – I was wrong. He really isn’t broken hearted. He’s going to go back out to SoCal for the funeral though. To be there for his siblings. Which is kind of a feely thing isn’t it! I suspect there will be sad pissed off moments in the future though. He won’t be able to call him on the holidays etc. I’ll be sad for him.