regrets

Do you have regrets? As you get older, I hear you have more regrets. Oh, it's that older thing again. I guess I just need to accept/embrace it! I.Am.Old(er). OK. Movin' on...

There's a new study - I love those - that lists the top 50 things people regret, after 50. Ready?

1. Ending relationships with people you loved
2. Not being more adventurous
3. Wasting time hating you body
4. Trying to live up to your parents' expectations
5. Not eating healthier when you were younger
6. Taking life too seriously
7. Not traveling more
8. Holding on to grudges
9. Not standing up for yourslf
10. Worrying about other people's opinons
11. Prioritizing practicality over fun
12. Not attending to your health
13. Quitting school
14. Not accomplishing more
15. working too much
16. Not telling people you love them
17. Ignoring your instincts
18. Being an inattentive partner (put your phone down)
19. Not taking vacations
20. Getting divorced (23% of women and 39% of men have regrets)
21. Letting friendships fizzle out
22. Missing out on the little moments
23. Not saving more
24. Not trying to land that dream job
25. Being unkind
26. Not doing more for others
27. Not seeing someone before they died
28. Not appreciating your youth
29. Not being more romantic
30. Muting your real personality (you know, trying to be someone you're not)
31. Not spending more time with your kids
32. Missing out on investment opportunities
33. Not admitting your feelings for someone
34. Being ungrateful
35. Not asking that person out
36. Setting aside your passions
37. Not being more present (put your phone down)
38. Not appreciating our body
39. Spending too much time worrying
40. Being inattentive to your kids (put your phone down)
41. Not getting to know people better
42. Letting the passion die
43. Not standing up for other people
44. Spending too little time with your parents
45. Acting your age
46. Forcing your opinions on our children
47. Not being more spontaneous
48. Not apologizing more
49. Ignoring your personal happiness
50. Not leaving a legacy

I am happily surprised to say, I don't have too many regrets. Out of those 50, there are only 4 or 5 things that I feel I haven't done. But, I don't necessarily regret it. Does that make sense? Like #49. I've ignored my own happiness. But I don't regret that because I did it to make other people happy. That's not really a bad thing. See what I mean? And by the time you're 50, you still have lots of years left to pay attention to your own happiness and passions. I don't think you should regret some of these.