Tuesday, June 20, 2023

Cha cha changes....

This is such an interesting article about today's workforce!  I know I mention the workforce a lot, but it's part of my working life so it's interesting to me.

‘Older generations are so confused': This young woman on TikTok says Gen Z, Millennials don't share the same work ethic as Boomers — 3 reasons why she might be onto something

Story by Vishesh Raisinghani   
Generational grumbles are as old as time itself. There’s probably a cave painting about how the younger generation ruined the hunter-gatherering economy with their “fancy agriculture.” Since then, every successive generation has found a new medium to express their disappointment with "them young’uns." 

One recent example comes from the comment section on TikTok, which recently erupted when a young lady explained why Gen Z and millennials don’t exactly share the same values when it comes to work.

“Older generations are so confused about why we don’t want to work hard anymore or prioritize our careers,” Demi Kotsoris says in the clip. “We know how short life is now.”

Kotsoris goes on to explain that the pandemic and greater access to information have reshaped the perspective of younger generations and made them question whether work should be the center of their lives.

Of course, the response was heated. “This mindset is so [‘you only live once’] that you will regret those decisions later,” reads one comment on Kotsoris’ video.

“People are just SELFISH & LAZY NOW,” says another.

But the replies may have missed the point of the video. Here’s why Kotsoris’ message resonates with so many younger workers and why her experience highlights some deeper truths about modern work.

Work isn’t as rewarding anymore

For baby boomers coming up, there were clear rewards for working hard. Putting in an average amount of effort allowed a typical worker to buy a nice home, raise children comfortably and travel the world. In the 1980s, the average home price was just four or five times the median income. Now it’s closer to 7.5 times.

Having a college degree was also far more rare in the 1980s. Now, nearly everyone on the job market has a degree, eroding that edge for workers. Meanwhile, the dollar has been eroded too. Wages haven’t kept up with inflation for decades, so an hour of work today isn’t worth as much as an hour of work in the '80s.

Upward mobility also saw a decline. A person born in a middle-class family in the 1940s was 93% likely to outearn their parents by the age of 30. For those born in the 1990s, that rate is just 45%.

Some boomers could beat the odds and create generational wealth by investing in stocks. However, even that's not as easy as it used to be. The S&P 500 was trading at around 10 times its earnings during the 1980s. It’s now trading in the low-20s.

The relationship with employers has changed

The employee-employer relationship has also changed since the '80s. Defined-benefit pension plans are nearly extinct. A major corporation that went public before the 1970s was 92% likely to survive the next five years. By the early 2000s, that rate had dropped to 63%.

Unions have also declined, which means workers now have far less bargaining power than their parents did.

All these factors have made younger workers question the value of company loyalty and lifelong careers.

The pandemic altered perspective

The global pandemic may also have shifted work culture for everyone, not just younger employees.

The crisis triggered a retirement boom. And at the same time, younger workers saw how short life can be, and how easily their lifestyle can be disrupted by a global crisis like a pandemic or climate change. A study by Deloitte found that Gen Z and Millennials are more likely to prioritize work-life balance, flexible work arrangements and purposeful work.

The pandemic highlighted that remote work is a viable option for many companies. In fact, a survey by Buffer found that 98% of remote workers would like to continue working remotely at least some of the time for the rest of their careers.  

Thursday, June 15, 2023

Music and smiles

Last week, a friend of mine and I went to see Ain't Too Proud, the life of The Temptations. I love all that old Motown music. It did not disappoint. Plus, she had a great time too. Double thumbs up. This was the last show of the season. My favorite play-mate and I have season tickets for the next Broadway season. It includes; Frozen, Mama Mia, To Kill a Mockingbird, Hadestown and Tina Turner.



Have you heard the song, Till You Can't, by Cody Johnson? I'm not kidding when I say, it's the BEST cheesy song EVER!! I love it!! How about the Hardy song, Wait In The Truck? I always feel bad that I really like this song. Oh!! And the song, A Rock. It's clever. Sometimes when I'm listening to my playlist on Amazon music, I'm surprised when some of the songs pop up. Like, Crazy or Crazy Train or Dream a Little Dream or Paint It Black or Me And Mrs Jones or Uptown Funk. And I picked them all! 

The other day we were watching some show about John Williams, the composer. You know, he wrote the music to Jaws, Jurassic Park, Star Wars, Indiana Jones, Lincoln, Harry Potter. Music really does make a movie sometimes. I really think about that sometimes when we're watching a movie. I really, really, really love books but I would miss music more if I didn't have it. Think about that song from your teens that always makes you smile when you hear it. Or, "your song" with your significant other. Music that makes you feel like summer. Or music that's soothing. Recently we've been listening to a lot of classical guitar. It can play all day long and I don't get tired of it. It's true, that music is healing.

Friday, June 2, 2023

fun stuff

This morning, the DJ on the oldies station I was listening to said, Paul McCartney was going to be 81 years old this month. Then he said, "where does all the time come from?!"  I loved that! Pretty great way to say it 😊

All the rest of this post is filled with the things that have made me laugh the last week or so.


I showed this picture to my fella and said, this is the thinnest and most fit I was in my whole life. (37 years ago) And he said, "god really blessed you" and I said, Uh huh. Then what happened?! and he said, "then YOU took over." Normally, that would have really pissed me off, but I laughed like crazy!!! Omg that was so funny!

This is one of my favorite young pictures of us. It was at my brothers wedding in Las Vegas, 1989.

Look at this cool horse I did!!! It's not really my design though. A woman asked me if I could make this, she sent me a picture, and I said yes. It's a little different than the original but she loved it. It was fun to do something so different.

A coworker bought this for me. I feel both ways about it. It's funny as hell but on the other hand, is it ok that people think I feel that way?!

On our front porch, a tiny little House Wren couple is building their nest in the little home we provided. We're loving their song all day and watching them stuffing stems and twigs in there.

THIS is hilarious!!!!

I love it when school is out and traffic is so much lighter but this is sooooo true about summer!

I feel this could be accurate!

 
This ad cracked me up because, well, honestly, I didn't know he was still alive. What is he, 90? Good grief dude. Just stay home! hahahahahahaha

And lastly, panda videos. I'm not kidding! Those chunky rascals crack me up! They're intentionally playful and it's the funniest thing to watch when you need a smile :-)

Friday, May 19, 2023

Disney

I love Disney animated movies. Especially the old ones, where every cell was hand painted; like Bambi and Snow White. I also like some of the newest ones, like Frozen, Encanto and Moana.

I love the streaming channel, Disney +. One, because they have all the Marvel movies! 😃 They also have some great channels, like Nat Geo

I'm not really a fan of Disney amusement parks though. I think Walt is turning over in his grave, at the cash cow they've become. For instance, if I just want to go to Disneyland for the day, depending on the date, it could be $179!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Disney World tops out at $159 a day. But if you go in August, on a Tuesday, it would only cost you $109. I think that's so ridiculous!

They say that business isn't that great for the Disney brand these days. So they fired their CEO and got Bob Iger to come back. I don't think the previous ceo understood that Disney wasn't broken, he didn't need to fix it. They shouldn't be involved in politics or trying to be "woke." Disney is supposed to be about kids and making kids smile. No agenda. 

Aaaaand this whole thing with DeSantis and Florida is so stupid. Again, stay out of politics. And if you don't like his policies, hey, you're going to outlast him for sure, just chill out.

As for the movies? Just tell good stories. Stories for kids, not their parents. Geesh.

Thursday, May 4, 2023

life, death, love and grief

I know how fortunate I am, that until recently, I've never lost someone I truly loved.  

A couple of weeks ago, my brother passed away. We knew it was coming, but I guess we weren't expecting it to happen so soon? Anyway...I told my fella, "I don't know how this is going to go for me, so I'm sorry in advance if I'm mean to you." He's been pretty wonderful.

I got the news from my sister-in-law about 11:30 at night. In those first couple of hours, I just didn't know what to do with myself! I was so fidgety. I was angry. I was sad. I paced. I cried and cried. 

In the days that followed, I felt all the things.

Physically, sometimes I couldn't catch my breath. Sometimes I felt a physical pain, like a weight on my chest. I'm tired. Sometimes I’m nauseous  

Emotionally, I'm angry that he didn't take better care of himself. I'm angry that he didn't do what the doctors told him to do. He just did whatever he wanted. While that might have been a good way to live in his mind, it sucked for all the people around him, that loved him. Then I think about the things I wish I would have said to him, the last time I saw him. Then, I'm incredibly sad for my mom. I can't imagine what it feels like to lose a child. I'm incredibly sad for my brother's children. They've lost both their parents now. Who is going to love them unconditionally? Who has their back? Then I wonder...I wonder if you know that you're dead. Does something happen in your brain that tells you that? I wonder if he was scared. Did he have regrets? That hurts me, for him, to think that. Then I think, I don't have anybody to say to, 'remember that Christmas when...or remember when we told mom _____ and really did ______?' He use to say frequently, "you know we aren't normal, right?"...because we were so close. He said he didn't know anyone that got along with their sibling(s) like we did. 

I'm still feeling all the things. I cry in my head a lot. Weird. For 30 years, we had a running joke going about cows. I saw this funny little cow thing at Hobby Lobby the other day...I cried in my head.

Mostly now it just feels weird. I wish I could think of a better word or way to say it. But it's just so WEIRD. How can this be? That he's not here anymore? How is that possible? Weird. I guess that's "denial."

Before his health started to fail him, he was one of nicest people I've ever known. Genuinely nice. He thought everyone was interesting in some way and he had meaningful conversations with strangers all the time. He laughed easily. He just wanted to have fun all the time. He was so stubborn! See? now I'm mad at him again! Weird. He loved being a dad. He loved all the commotion. He had a strong work ethic and was a loyal employee. He had fish and a bird for pets when he was young.  He was never really a dog or cat person. He was a skateboarder and had a paper route when he was a little guy. He was a NASCAR fan and an avid Raiders fan! He had stunning blue eyes, which he passed down to one of his daughters and a grandson. He loved having a garden and growing peppers. He really liked spicy food. He liked to cook, from an early age. His favorite movies were comedies. He loved to go fishing and he liked camping out. He was game for anything. I loved that about him. He had SO many friends! He was lucky in that way.

Sigh. I'm sure going to miss him. 





















 ðŸ˜¥ 9/28/1964 - 4/19/2023 💔

Friday, March 24, 2023

Hell

I keep seeing this headline..."A guy says he had a heart attack and went to hell. Here's what he saw."

I finally caved and read it. 👀 It turned out to be one of the best laughs I've had in weeks. Here is the link to the article;

A Guy Says He Had a Heart Attack and Went to Hell in 2016. Here's What He Saw. (msn.com)

Now, I don't want poo poo his experience, and it does sound pretty horrific. But here's the thing, the "guy" is a priest. Toward the end of the article the priest says his hellacious near death experience made him realize he needed to forgive people who had wronged him, instead of hoping for their punishment.

Ummm, seriously?! You're a freakin priest and you were hoping for people to be punished? Yeah, there's a reason you went to hell, dumbass.

Wednesday, March 22, 2023

Rodents and other small mammals *REVISED 3/27

We don't live in the country. We don't live in an urban area either. I guess that makes us suburban?

Anyway, there is a lot of wildlife around us. Most of it is totally ok with me. Well, I don't appreciate the racoons eating all the bird food and/or pooping on the roof of the house, but other than that, I don't mind too much. 

Last Fall though, some small critter has taken up the interior of our living room wall, as its home. It drives my fella crazy! He can hear it, scurrying around in there. It's become our mission to seek out and destroy the culprit! Mwahahahahaha

First, we plugged up all the obvious holes we could find outside.

Then we set out mouse traps. After a week, we didn't catch a single thing.

Then we drilled small holes in the wall and squirted cayenne pepper in the walls. That worked for a second.

Then we started looking for poison. You would be so surprised to find that that's not a very likable way to get rid of an animal. So we opted for the humane way - trap it in a cage and release it back into the wild, far away from US.

Monday night he put the cage up in the attic. Tuesday morning he found a mouse in there! 

(3/22) Tuesday night he put it back in the attic. Wednesday morning, another mouse. 

*(3/23) Wednesday night he put it back in the attic. Thursday morning he found a mouse in it! 

*(3/24) Thursday night he put it back in the attic. Friday morning he found a mouse in it!

*(3/25) Friday night, back in the attic. Saturday morning he found a ground squirrel in it.

*(3/26) Saturday night he put in back in the attic. Sunday morning her found a mouse in it.

Honestly, I thought that it was probably going to be a chipmunk up there. Nope. I bet there are A LOT of mice up there! Shoot. I hope we can catch them all. I'm super happy though that they haven't found a way into the house. If that happens, trust me, death is imminent!

*I'm pretty sure the ground squirrel was the culprit in the wall. That sucker was PISSED off in that cage! Since we're still catching mice, I guess this qualifies for an infestation. Ewwww. The little squirrel kind of boogered up the cage though so we're switching over to a bucket trap. the bucket trap is a lid that fits on any 5 gallon bucket. I has a swinging flap on the top so when a critter steps on it, it flips 'em down into the bucket. Pretty cool. I'm so NOT happy about this mouse thing. Grrrr.



Tuesday, March 21, 2023

Vacations

Do you like planning your vacations? Or are you one of those people that will happily go along.

I like the planning part almost as much as the actual vacation. I like finding the places to go or see or stop at. This year we are combining a road trip and visiting family into a 2 week vacation. Missouri, Oklahoma, Texas, New Mexico, Arizona, Nevada, Utah, Colorado, Kansas, Illinois in 4,000+ miles By the time this trip is over, my fella and I will have been to 34 states, together! That's so cool! 

Along the way we will go to/see/stop at;

the National Cowboy Museum

a couple of vintage motorcycle museums along the way

an old stage coach stop

Fort Reno

Cadillac Ranch

The Big Texan Steak House - they have a 72oz steak that you can have for free if you can eat it in an hour! 4 1/2 pounds of beef. It's $72. Since 1960, 11% of the people who have tried, succeeded. I could do it. hahahahahahahaha

Santa Fe - really looking forward to this!

The Painted Desert and Petrified Forest

The Continental Divide

Winslow Arizona - because of the song...you know, "standing on a corner in Winslow Arizona, such a fine sight to see, it's a girl my lord in a flatbed ford slowing down to take a look at me..." Sorry honey, but I have to.

Several of the trading posts along the way

Ghost towns!

fun route 66 things

Bryce canyon

Old train rides in old cities

seeing family, on both sides

Yep, the planning is fun 😊



Monday, March 13, 2023

Brits

My fella and I are watching a British show called, The Great Pottery Throw Down. It's a reality show about, hahahaha, pottery. At first, we chose to watch it because we don't know anything about pottery. Now we do! It's all very complicated. There are contestants who are mostly home 'potters.' Every week they are challenged to create something different. Did you know there were so many different kinds of clay? And glazes? It's really interesting. There's a host(ess) and 2 judges. One of the judges is chap named Keith Brymer Jones. I love him. He's SO emotional - it's delightful. Whenever one of the potters makes something beautiful or different, he get's all teary! It's fantastic, his passion.

Anyway, it's the first British show I've actually watched and I just want to say, Brits are very quirky and easy. Brits seem to be so much more light hearted than we are. They aren't nearly as hung up on sex or cussing or fashion as we are. It's really nice! Oh sure, I know it's just tv and they're probably all on their best behavior, but still. We're on season 3 and every group so far has been charming. I'm going to look for some more British shows and check it out 😊

Monday, March 6, 2023

Favorite Days

Do you have favorite days in your memories? Not necessarily the best day(s), but your favorite. I guess they could be the same though. Like, getting married was a best day for me but it isn't really one of my favorite days. It was stressful and a blur.

The first favorite day/memory I have is when my mom took me to see the original Doctor Doolittle, at a movie theater, for my ninth birthday. It was just her and me. It was very special to me. I remember it being a big theater - do you remember those? She laughs about that because she says she did it because she couldn't afford anything else. 

Another favorite day of mine was when I took my kid brother to Venice Beach. I was 23, he was still 17. It was a Saturday and I didn't have anything to do and neither did he so I said, hey! let's go to Venice Beach! Neither of us had ever been. We had a blast! We saw some of the craziest things!! We even saw the chainsaw juggler - before he was famous. There was a lot of crazy stuff to see on Venice Beach.

The morning I fell in love with my husband. I thought I was going to burst, like I'd just had 10 pots of coffee and I might shoot off into space. That was the best feeling ever!

Seeing the play, Jesus Christ Superstar, with Ted Neeley. For me, it would've been like seeing Yul Brenner in The King And I. And then meeting him after the show. It was awesome. He was so kind and generous with his time, to everybody who had stayed behind to meet him. When I asked him to sign my program, he asked me where and I said, oh, anywhere is fine. He said, "no, you pick a page. It will matter to you later."

I had another favorite day with my brother too. I want to say it was about 20 years ago. Mom and I were in California visiting and he and I went out for the day. Mom was with her childhood friends, Bonnie and Tom. My brother and I just spent the day together driving around San Juan Capistrano, Laguna Beach, Newport Beach and Huntington Beach. It was a super fun day of eating, drinking, laughing and being brother and sister!

Our honeymoon when we arrived in Cabo San Lucas - before it was a thing, when it was still a little seaside town in Mexico. There was the restaurant, The Giggling Marlin, glass bottom boat tours, white sandy beaches, blue waters. It was my favorite honeymoon stop.

The first time I ever saw Garth Brooks in concert. It was in Kansas City. He had already retired but did these 9 shows in 2007. My fella drove with me 500 miles so I could do this. He was awesome. My fella. Oh, yeah, Garth too.

There are plenty more but these are the ones that always pop into my head.

Wednesday, February 22, 2023

Protecting LGBTQ rights?

Earlier this week, the LGBTQ community, (well, mostly teachers who had the day off) showed up at our Statehouse to protest our version of the "Don't Say Gay" law in Florida. Here, they call it, the Slate of Hate bill. The digest of the bill says;
Sexual orientation and gender identity instruction. Provides that a school, an employee or staff member of a school, or a third party vendor used by a school to provide instruction may not provide any instruction to a student in kindergarten through grade 3, including a presentation, in which the goal or purpose of the instruction is to study, explore, or inform students about: gender fluidity; gender roles; gender stereotypes; gender identity; gender expression; sexual orientation. Defines "school" for purposes of this provision.

Honestly, if I had a child in kindergarten, I don't want some teacher with an agenda, talking to my FIVE year old about sex or gender identity. Geesh. 

Some of the comments on Twitter were so stupid.
"if you don't agree with this bill you are normalizing pedophilia!"
 "So what's next? Book burning, start concentration camps for people who are different then you?" "so if my daughter tells her 1st grade teacher that she has 2 mommies, what is that teacher going to say?"

Some people said, during the hearing, that this bill would prevent kids of LGBTQ parents from being able to talk about her family at school. Really? Is that what the bill says??? Come on.

After the initial reading in the House, some amendments were made. Instead of saying sexual orientation or gender identity, they amended it to 'human sexuality.' Another amendment was to require a parent at the beginning of the school year to give written consent if a child is going to use a different name other than their legal name.

What does that mean? Boy, they better be specific because lots of kids have nicknames or short names that don't even look like their legal name. People, people, people.

Why don't they just say, you can't teach sex ed earlier than 4th grade. Isn't that what they really mean? I don't know. There are so many other BIGGER issues in this state. 

Tuesday, February 21, 2023

...speaking of how much is enough...

MIT says the living wage in 2022 before taxes for a family of 4 in the U.S. is $104,077 a year. That's a livable wage. The lowest is $88,720, in Texas and the highest is $147,248 in San Jose.

In my hometown, the living wage for 2 adults, no children, are as follows;

Food - $7,352
Medical - $6,655
Housing - $9,634
Transportation - $9,634
Civic - $5,878
Other - $8,394
Required income after taxes - $47,678

It's a little curious that transportation and housing are the same. And that seems pretty low for housing. Maybe they aren't including property tax and insurance. Also, I think we spend more than that on food, annually. My fella and I are doing pretty good considering one of us is already retired.

You can go here, https://livingwage.mit.edu/ to find yours.
It's interesting.

Monday, February 20, 2023

Your dead body

What a gruesome thought; what's going to happen to your dead body??

Eaten by wild animals at the bottom of the cliff you fell off of while trying to take the perfect selfie? Nibbled to the bone by the fishes you were forced to sleep with. Blown to bits and pieces in a war torn country. 

Or, if you could choose, will you be buried? Cremated? Well there's a new choice on the horizon!

I don't know how I feel about this. It makes sense but it goes against traditions. Where will the proof be, that you existed? You would just be a story. Oh! This is SO WEIRD! 

Friday, February 17, 2023

How much is enough?

I saw something a couple years ago that said, When you have more than you need, build a longer table not a higher fence. I love that. Even as a country, we can be so giving and so selfish at the same time. On crowdfunding pages alone, like Go Fund Me, over 17 billion was raised last year in North America alone!

My fella and I talk about that often, in regard to corporations, etc. How much money do you need anyway? I mean, I don't begrudge Jeff Bezos, Elon Musk or the Walton family. They worked hard to get where they are. But personally, how much money do you have to have to be happy? As an athlete, why is your skill worth 20 million a year and how much of that do you really need to live a happy life? What drives people to want to have ALL the money? Greed? Fear? And I'm not saying everyone who has a lot of money is like that. 

Also, I'm not talking about the criminal element in immigration or the effects of big government, blah, blah, blah. I'm just asking on a very basic level, but think about how brave a person has to be to leave their home, all of their belongings, their friends and families, to endure unknown hardships to come to this country, for a chance at a better life. It's heartbreaking, the way we're told to think about it. 


Wednesday, February 15, 2023

DIY yourself

Arts and crats fairs/shows are very different if you're artsy craftsy. If you aren't, everything is pretty cool because none of it is something YOU could do! If you are artsy or craftsy, you look at people's work differently. for instance, I can walk by a booth and think, oh yeah, that's cute - and not have to stop. I already know what it took for them to create their art or craft and that I could do it too, if I wanted. But if they have something that's super cute or really creative, I want to stop and look at it. I want to try and figure out how they did that. I'm interested. Plus, I really appreciate their talent, patience, skill...etc.

I read a delightful little book once called, Steal Like An Artist. The author talks about finding your inspiration. About copying the work of the people you love until you eventually find your own style. He also says, nothing is original. Everything comes from something else. You have to start somewhere! On Instagram, you can find people who create art and things, in just about any category. Sometimes I save a screenshot of something they've done because I like the colors they used or the way they twirled the paper in a leaf.

Some artsy people or small businesses are totally transparent about what they do and/or how they do it. Others are super secretive! When I participated in the art fair a couple years ago, several people asked me if they could take a picture of something I had for sale. I always said, sure! A couple people asked me what kind of paper I used. I told them. It doesn't hurt me to share that knowledge with them. If they want to make it themselves, they should! Anyway, it always kind of surprises me when people keep their process a secret. For instance, I follow a quilling page on Instagram of a woman who makes quilled earrings. She's amazing! I like to see her art. It's not something I'm interested in doing though. Another follower asked her if her earrings were waterproof. She said, yes. And it took her many, many attempts and many, many different products to achieve the waterproof coating that she was satisfied with. Then she said, but don't ask me what it is because I won't share that with you. Do your own research and figure it out yourself. Dang. I thought that was kind of rude. I mean really, what's it going to hurt her to tell someone? Geesh.